Days of Future Pride


Pioneers Remember the Dark Days Before Rainbows

The youngest members of our GLBT tribe could be forgiven for concluding that Pride was little more than an excuse for companies, big and small, to cash in. Modern Pride is used to sell virtually anything, from drink specials to servers, phone plans to car rentals, and all things in between.

George Holdgrafer. Photo by Sophia Hantzes

What’s too often forgotten—or worse, never known—is that that Pride is a commemoration of a police raid at Manhattan’s Stonewall Inn on June 28, 1969… or, more accurately, the long-overdue resistance that that raid inspired. This transpired in a time when being openly gay could get you fired, de-familied, or even finished, in New York City or anywhere else in the Western Hemisphere. That era was Night to the current era’s Day.

Stonewall was commemorated for the first time within the Twin Cities three years later. The granddaddy of the Twin Cities Pride Parade was a rowdy, fifty-person protest march on the Nicollet Mall in downtown Minneapolis.  The following year, in 1973, Twin Cities Pride, such as it was, grew impressively. “Gay Pride Week” consisted of a picnic, a march, a dance, a softball game, and canoeing. The following year, 150 participants were wowed by the first transgender speaker.

And then, not too long afterwards, George Holdgrafer made the scene. “I’ve been there since the beginning,” he says. “Well, almost since the beginning.”

Born in 1951, Holdgrafer, who would eventually go on to co-found a little sumpin’ known as Lavender Magazine, started off small, advocacy-wise.

Harry Hartigan. Photo courtesy of Harry Hartigan

“I was a late bloomer,” he says in an apologetic tone. “I finally decided to come out of the closet because I was tired of being in it.  Besides, all of my friends already knew.”

As Twin Cities Pride took a shape somewhat similar to its current form, Holdgrafer stepped from not just out of the closet but into the limelight.

“I served on the local Pride board from 1988 to 1995,” he notes with characteristic matter-of-factness. Holdgrafer also became a champion for such “gay newspapers” as Equal Time and GLC Voice (which appealed to Gays, Lesbians, and Civilized others). This gave members of the local pre-GLBT community a chance to belong… assuming they wanted it.

Which brings us to Harry Hartigan.

Now seventy years old and recently ordained as a priest of Saint Theresa’s Catholic Apostolic Church in North America, Hartigan had endured a childhood filled to the brim with gay-centric bullying.

“Queer has a different meaning today,” observes Hartigan, “but back then, it was a terrible word—a terrible, terrible word.”

Coming of age during the Vietnam era, young Hartigan was nudged into the United States Navy where his clerical duties lent him a front row seat to the outing and kicking-out of gay sailors. The message from the Navy was the same from his childhood tormentors: “Being gay is not okay.”

At age 21, Hartigan did what society told him he should do. He got married and (eventually) had kids. In 1978, he moved from Chicago to Minneapolis in support of a job with Target Corporation. Although it’s considered a staunch GLBT ally today, the Target Corporation was in that time more concerned with things other than human rights. Its “wholesome image,” as Hartigan remembers it, was key, and gay employees ran counter to that presentation.

Hartigan’s life fell into a dreary pattern: he would go to work, visit gay bars after hours, “then,” he remembers with a laugh, “go home and be miserable.” Breaking this paradigm, Hartigan began furthering his education. During this pursuit, Hartigan encountered an openly lesbian professor whose very presence forced him to reevaluate his own life and eventually come out. Soon after, his employer informed him that his services were no longer required because of company “streamlining.”

Hartigan persisted, working various jobs over the ensuing decades, always maintaining a strong interest in formalized spirituality as he went. He’s well pleased with the progress made by the GLBT community since his own salad days…but he maintains a hefty dose of sympathy.

“Kids are coming out earlier,” Hartigan observes. “It’s not any easier today, but there is more help.”

The discrimination that defined Hartigan’s existence still exists today, but, Hartigan notes slyly, “You have to stop and think about it.”

So yes—this summer, do enjoy your discounted drinks, servers, phone plans, and car rentals… but please never forget that Twin Cities Pride is deeply rooted in history—his story. And your history, too.

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