A Word In Edgewise: Tips For The Holiday Season


Christians dining out are reported justifying stiffing wait-staff by declaring their church tithing excuses them, leaving tracts or even a faux $10 bill that opens into religious cant, in lieu of tips. Others refuse to tip anyone perceived as gay.

When Dayna Morales, server at the Gallop Asian Bistro in Bridgewater, New Jersey, introduced herself to a family, the mom remarked, “Oh I thought you were gonna say your name is Dan. You sure surprised us!” At the end of their $93.55 meal, she scribbled on the tab, “Sorry I cannot tip because I do not agree with your lifestyle & the way you live your life.”

Another server in Kansas City, reported The Raw Story, was first thanked for “excellent” service, then: “We cannot in good conscience tip you, for your homosexual lifestyle is an affront to GOD.” Queers do not share in the wealth of GOD, and you will not share in ours. We hope you will see the tip your queer choices made you lose out on . . . It is never too late for GOD’s love, but none shall be spared for queers. May GOD have mercy on you.”

Jesus preached, “Therefore, whatever you want men to do to you, do also to them, for this is the Law and the Prophets,” while God himself told Moses, “You shall not take vengeance, nor bear any grudge against the children of your people, but you shall love your neighbor as yourself: I am the Lord.”

At what level of denial do these non-tippers operate? There’s something disingenuous about accepting food from gay hands then refusing on “moral” grounds to pay for the service. With their keenly-honed gaydar, they could request a different server before ordering, though that would publicly brand them as the bigots they are.

Even Chick Publications (www.chick.com), longtime provider of cartoon gospel tracts, doesn’t advocate doing a bunk but explains, “When you leave a good tip and a tract at a restaurant, you don’t just reach one person . . . it usually gets circulated until everyone gets the message.”

Unlike in Europe, where many in the service industry are paid a living wage, American workers are not. They depend on tips to survive. Don’t let them down.

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