A Day In The Life: Jessy Oldham (a.k.a. Mad. M. Moxie)


Photo courtesy of Jessy Oldham

Jessy Oldham, Mad. M. Moxie

Where did you grow up?
Lake City, MN, though I was a foster child who bounced around a bunch.

Where do you live?
I now live in Minneapolis.

Who do you live with?
I have one roommate.

What is your occupation?
I do drag shows, make costumes, do stand up and teach burlesque lessons. I work for myself, but my boss is crazy.

When did you come out?
I came out pretty early in life, about 11 or 12.

How’d that go?
It seemed to confuse my mother, my sisters were quite accepting. I had an uncle who used to
beat the living hell out of me pretty regularly for being femme. This went on for a few years.

When do you wake up?
I have a horrid sleep cycle, so whenever I open my eyes.

Phone alarm or old school alarm?
I live by a school, so do loud kids count?


By the gallon.

Cream or no?
No, I like my coffee how I like my magick.

How do you spend your commute?
Trying to find whatever I want to work on that day.

If your job were like a yearbook, what would you be voted? (Class clown, best dressed, most
annoying, etc.)
Most likely to die an early death.

What inspires you?
Sometimes life openly and unabashedly sucks. I find inspiration in finding ways to counter that. If I can bring someone joy, that too inspires me.

Do you eat your lunch while working or take a break?
I just like eating.

Is your work space tidy or a hot mess?
Much like me, my work space is a hot mess.

What’s been your favorite job?

Who are your heroes?
Elvira, Morticia, Leslie Hall, Blondie, and so many more.

Favorite weeknight meal: Go out, take out, or cook in?
Take out.

Most embarrassing moment:
One time at a show I accidentally took some LSD. I was tripping so hard and trying to act like everything was fine. I ended up doing the whole show, and on my way backstage I fell in front of all the other queens and popped one of my breasts.

On a usual weeknight, you are doing what?
Stuffing my face, playing video games, writing, or singing to piss off the neighborhood.

When I pass out.

Favorite weekend activity:
Spending time with my friends and loved ones.

What are you most proud of and why?
I made it this far, I have seen a lot of pain and abuse in my life. I have a driving force inside to
help others see their strength too.

Words of wisdom to share:
Sometimes life will give you the best hand, and you will still lose.
Sometimes life will give you a terrible hand, and you can still win.
Sometimes life will hold out your hands, and just poop in them.
But even still, it’s your choice to grow a flower.

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